Facebook Stalker-Toeing The Line: Qualified Stalking for E-Moms & Ex’s & tiny people

7 Ways To Spot A Chronic Facebook Stalker

 

You know the type: someone who is always showing up in comments and appears to be practically plugged in directly to Facebook. While we’ve effectively outlined all the signs of addiction, there’s a group of Facebook users that are all to themselves: Facebook stalkers. Here’s how to tell if you have one.

They Are Always Commenting On Your Posts

This is probably the first sign that you may have a Facebook stalker. While your family and close friends may be welcome commenters, there’s often someone who you barely know who always seems to comment on your posts. That individual is the person you want to watch out for. While it’s not guaranteed that they’ve crossed into stalker territory yet, there’s a good chance they may if this is combined with other signs listed below.

They Show Up At The Top Of Your Friend List

This one can be a dead giveaway. When you go to your Facebook profile and view your list of friends, who are the people that show up? Most of the time they are people who you’ve interacted with regularly, or have the most shared friends with. However if there is someone who you don’t know that well showing up in your list, you should start becoming a little more concerned, because you have experienced something that defies the laws of Facebook. Somehow there is somebody out there who stalks you so much, they have broken Facebook’s own algorithms. Beware!

You Always Receive Notifications From Them

You may never play Cityville, but for some reason you keep getting requests from someone you barely know who asking you to help them with their City. Not only is it annoying that your phone vibrates everytime you get a game request, but when you don’t even know the person, it doesn’t make much sense. My own rule is to unfriend anybody that tags me in an application if I can’t remember how I met them, but that may be a bit drastic.

Cityville Request

They Send You Weird, Creepy Messages

Wird and creepy is always a subjective matter, but if you’re sent a message multiple times from someone and you still aren’t responding, you can deem that individual and official “Facebook stalker”. Stalkers have little to no way of actually connecting with you but they have a desire to do so anyways despite not interacting with you in 5 or more years, if ever. However messages are only the beginning.

They Send You Strange Instant Messages

IMs are truly the primary tool for aggressive Facebook stalkers. You see, a true Facebook stalker does not only stalk one person. Instead they attempt to prey on multiple subjects until they get a response. A single IM response from you is enough motivation to keep a Facebook stalker messaging you for the next 3 months. If you’ve had this experience, then you definitely have a real-life, Facebook stalker.

Comments On Your Photos From Last Year

When someone posts something to their feed it’s acceptable to like or comment on their post, however if you’re going back to their photo archives and posting comments on an image from when they were 16, that’s a little bit weird. While we know that most people spend some time perusing their friends photo archives, the secret is not acknowledging it. When a comment shows up from many years ago, it’s a dead giveaway that you were spending a little too much time staring at them.

You Blocked Them

Ok, things have gotten a bit out of control now. Your Facebook stalker has now crossed the line into real-life stalker and it’s time to call the police before you get hurt. This creeper may now be standing outside your windows, watching you as your proceed through your day. You should also go fix your privacy settings so that this individual is now on your blocked list. If you have ever put someone on your blocked list, whoever that person was, can most definitely be classified as a real “Facebook stalker”. They just don’t know the limits of personal communication.

What other signs have you seen from Facebook stalkers? Please, comment below.. .

 

Tips to Deal with it

 

Keep it Private

Facebook leaves it up to you to keep things private. People can plead ignorance… but this is the internet. You need to be proactive if you’re going to be sharing private information. We’ll help you keep your private information, private by giving you the best tips on Facebook’s privacy controls.

Find Out More

We’ll give you the best tips and tricks, and maybe even develop a few tools to give you more insight to your Facebook world.

Ticker Suitor or Facebook Stalker – Toeing The Line

‘Increased engagement or increased annoyance?’

 

I was reminded again this weekend how powerful social media is when used right (or wrong), and how genius the Facebook designers and engineers have been and continue to be with Timeline; first for profile, now for Pages.

Facebook developers have taken human nature’s finest traits and shortcomings, flaws and instincts and and used this knowledge to create a suburb platform that caters and supports our human habits by letting us share our misery, stories, triumphs and defeats in real time.

The latest social media buzz is about Timeline for Pages and I certainly love it. Only a few days ago I blogged about it and the feedback has been great.

But what about the changes we saw in Timeline for profiles?

Let’s say…

The Facebook Ticker.

 

TICKER SUITORS

What and who are those, you ask?

Those are the friends who watch your every move and comment on posts you commented on.  They can see who you talk to and if they aren’t friends with your friends they might (try t0) friend your friends.  The ticker features allows them to see all your personal posts in real time..

Those are the types of business associates who’ve ‘friended’ you and now ‘like’ all your comments, like the same pages you like, comment on your posts and basically do all you do on Facebook, emulating you and your habits.

 

FACEBOOK STALKERS

Those are the friends who watch your every move and comment on posts you commented on.  They can see who you talk to and if they aren’t friends with your friends they might (try t0) friend your friends.  The ticker features allows them to see all your personal posts in real time..

Those are the types of business associates who’ve ‘friended’ you and now ‘like’ all your comments, like the same pages you like, comment on your posts and basically do all you do on Facebook, emulating you and your habits.

 

…GOT YOU!

Whether they use it for GOOD or EVIL, Ticker Suitors and Facebook Stalkers are one and the same.

 

This behavior is certainly not new to Facebook.  It was happening way before the ‘Facebook Timeline Ticker’ came to be.  But the ticker has made it MUCH EASIER to see, in REAL TIME, what is happening with your friends and whom they are talking to and what pages they are visiting.

 

POSITIVE  (INTE)-R-(E)-ACTIONS

  1. As an expert in your field; your calls to action are heard and seen.
  2. As the authority in your groups; your requests and invitations are shared.
  3. As a loyal friend; you get great engagement on your personal profile.
  4. As a Facebook Fan; your actions get duplicated and acknowledged.

 NEGATIVE (INTE)-R-(E)-ACTIONS

  1. As an expert in your field; your actions get copied and duplicated without getting credited.
  2. As the authority in your groups; you end up being a supervisor and having to act like a hall monitor.
  3. As a loyal friend; you might see some not-so-appropriate posts on your profile wall and you might get unwanted tagging on your personal profile.
  4. As a Facebook Fan; your actions get noted and judged.

 

The ticker can (and is) used for both good and bad.  Don’t be fooled by it’s quickness.  I’ve gathered quite a bit of data about my friends from the ticker and I’ve found some great new Facebook Pages to explore and people to connect with.

I’ll leave you with a recent example, a positive one.

On Saturday morning, I saw a ticker post come by that said:  ’xxxx liked Smedia Enterprises’.  Since the person who ‘liked’ the page is another social media manager, I quietly followed and went to the page as well.  While there, I found this post:

I liked the post and the page.

Therefore, I took these steps:

  • I ‘liked’ the page.
  • I left a comment with my most favorite recent post with a tag back to my page.
  • I commented on that page that I was going to re-post the question on my own wall.
  • I posted the post on my Facebook Page wall with different wording.

There was some great interaction, as you can tell by the 21 comments!  I also got a new fan (the page owner) and great engagement.

I NEVER would have found that page and that post had it not been for the ticker.

 E-MOM ? Really ?

“Don’t post stupid stuff on Facebook.” Barack Obama

 

 

As in

http://moreinmedia.com/2012/03/ticker-suitor-or-facebook-stalker-toeing-the-line/

by Dorien Morin-van Dam

http://www.facebookstalker.net/news/

http://allfacebook.com/chronic-facebook-stalker_b37856

by Nick O’Neill

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